Why Getting Back Into Dating After a Breakup Is Hard – But Totally Worth It!

Let’s be honest: getting back into the dating scene after a breakup can feel like trying to jump into cold water. You stand there, toeing the edge, wondering if you're ready… or if you'd rather just stay single, order Uber Eats, and rewatch your favourite Netflix show for the third time.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

After a relationship ends, especially one that meant a lot, many people find themselves in a bit of a dating limbo. The idea of “finding someone new” feels a little overwhelming. Where do you even start? Swiping left and right can feel like a game you don’t want to play, and the thought of awkward first dates? Ugh.

But here’s the thing: while dating after a breakup is hard, it’s also one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.

First, Let's Talk About Why It’s Hard

1. Fear of getting hurt again.
After you’ve had your heart broken, it’s only natural to want to protect it. Trusting someone new can feel risky. What if they ghost you? What if it doesn't work out? The fear is real.

2. Comparison.
It's easy to compare new people to your ex (even if you know your ex wasn’t right for you). Every little thing can feel like a test.

3. Confidence takes a hit.
Breakups can shake your self-esteem. You might start doubting your worth, your attractiveness, or whether you're even "dateable" anymore (spoiler alert: you are).

4. The dating world has changed.
If it’s been a while, things might look different now. Dating in NZ has gone digital in a big way. Apps are everywhere, and it can feel like everyone else is playing the game better than you.

But Here’s Why It’s Totally Worth It

1. You grow.
Getting back out there teaches you so much, not just about others, but about yourself. You rediscover what you want, what you don’t, and what actually makes you happy.

2. There are great people out there.
Yes, some dates will be duds. But there are also kind, funny, genuine people out there looking for someone just like you. And when you click with someone? It makes all the awkward small talk worth it.

3. Being single doesn’t mean staying single.
Being single can be empowering, but it’s also okay to want someone to share life with. After all, two’s company, right? Having someone to laugh with, support you, and just be there, it’s a pretty amazing feeling.

4. You don’t have to do it alone.
There are real people who get how tough dating can be. Whether it’s friends who cheer you on, or professionals like a matchmaker who help you navigate the modern dating world, support is out there. Services like Two’s Company specialise in dating in NZ, and they actually take the time to get to know you. It’s not about algorithms, it’s about real connection.

A Final Thought

The first step back into dating can be the hardest. You might feel unsure, rusty, even scared. But each small move you make, whether it’s saying yes to a coffee date or just updating your dating profile, is a step toward something new.

Something better.

You deserve connection. You deserve joy. And you definitely deserve someone who lights you up. So take a breath, trust yourself, and remember: every love story starts somewhere.

Ready to start your next chapter? Two’s Company is here to help you find someone amazing. Because love in NZ doesn’t have to be hard—you just need the right support.

www.twoscompany.co.nz